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What Will Smith Did Was Wrong: Here’s Why
While everyone was looking at the slap at the Academy Awards heard round the world and the reactions that went along with it, I was looking at the reactions of Will Smith’s wife and family. Because I know that feeling, I’ve been in that place.
A few years ago, I was dating a guy who was great. He had a good job, was great with my kids, and wanted to travel the world just like I did. We shared political beliefs, dreams, and ethical views, or at least I thought we shared ethical views. As someone who used to be an addict and had been arrested for getting into a physical fight with my ex partner, I had turned over a new leaf that was more than a decade in the making. I was clean, was going to therapy, had gone through anger management, and changed the way I reacted to situations that made me upset.
The guy I was seeing at the time had a similar story, though his was only a year old. One night when he was drunk, he got into a verbal argument with a cashier at a convenience store. The fight turned physical and property was damaged. He was arrested and put on probation. When we discussed our similar rock bottoms, I felt a connection in a way I hadn’t felt with anyone else before. I had been high and awake for three days when my incident happened. I knew what it was like to do something that you would never do if you were in your right mind. He told me…
